Is it called the “Super Bowl” because bowls of food are always involved?
BANTER BITE BACKSTORY: The Super Bowl may be THE most anticipated sporting event of the year, but although Red isn’t a football fan, she used to watch it with her daughter Sawyer before she left for college (Sawyer focused on the game, Red the singing of the national anthem and half-time show); while for Black it’s always been about the commercials, but this year …
As an empty nester, Red hadn’t planned to watch the Super Bowl. There’s an assortment of shows she’d rather watch (all, of course, would include a bowl of freshly popped popcorn). Until she received an email a few days ago from a friend with the subject line, “Popcorners on TikTok,” and included a video that was about two of her favorite things … Popcorners (once she discovered them a few years ago, she became an unpaid spokesperson, touting them to anyone who’ll listen) and the lead characters from Breaking Bad. (Red admits that even though the series is over 10 years old, she’s only recently started watching it, actually, “binge-watching” would be more accurate.)
The funny thing is, for years, Black has always gone to a Super Bowl watch party that was only a handful of dear friends. And while some would “demand” quiet and no side conversations during the actual game, Black would “shhh” people during the commercials. Now, with most of the commercials available in advance, she only does that for her favorite commercials. Although she impatiently awaits the premiere of one commercial,
Given all the controversy over M&M’s and the company’s decision to sideline (pun intended) its spokescandies, supposedly in response to cultural backlash, including changing the green M&M’s shoes, I want to see if it was merely a brilliant marketing ploy. If so, it worked.
At first, Red could not believe the drama surrounding the M&M’s, but now that she started watching sneak previews of some of the Super Bowl commercials, she understands how they’re such an important part of the game. And has decided that she might have to watch the Super Bowl after all. Or, technically, the commercials. With the added bonus of hearing one of her favorite singers, Chris Stapleton, sing the National Anthem.
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Quick! If someone says "Julius Caesar," what comes to mind?
Almost everyone has heard of Julius Caesar, but how many of us really know much about him, or at least that's what Red starts to wonder when she receives the usual flippant, but still accurate, reply from her sister, after feeling very proud that she knew that July was named after the famous Roman.
Which is what got Red to realize, much to her surprise (shock, if truth be told), that even as a straight-A student with a love of history, that when it came to Julius Caesar, a famous historical figure and possibly one of the greatest generals and statesmen of all time, she couldn't tell you dates or battles or anything "historical" associated with him.
Even as a theater major in college, she never read Shakespeare's "Julius Caesar," although she knew just enough about the play to know that it was where the fortune teller warned Caesar to "Beware the Ides of March." Instead, her knowledge of Caesar came from her love of movies.
My first, and probably my most enduring, memory is of a brilliant general who not only commanded armies as he conquered lands far from home but was a great statesman who was also involved with one of the world's most beautiful women. And while he was Julius Caesar and the woman was Cleopatra, to me, they'll always be Rex Harrison and Elizabeth Taylor in Cleopatra, a movie almost as controversial as the general himself.
And Black? Besides knowing that Caesar Salad was invented by a different Caesar, she appreciates Julius Caesar's leadership skills and way with words,
There is much we can learn about leadership from Julius Caesar, whether on the battlefield, in politics, or in business (start small, take risks, communicate well), including what ultimately led to his death (always consider worst-case scenarios, never get complacent or arrogant). Many of his quotes speak (pun intended) to his powerful way with words, and the ability to not only deliver a message but to inspire (and story tell), with my favorite being, "I came, I saw, I conquered."
Talking isn't the same as communicating. And hearing isn't the same as listening. Think about it.
Being an effective communicator, whether in our personal lives or at work, is a critical skill (Black thinks it's a super-power), but one-size-doesn't-fit-all as we each use very different methods and styles … ranging from lots of words and talking stuffed animals (Red) to bullet points (Black).
When Red learned that June was Effective Communications Month, she had to laugh, as the first thought that popped into her head was,
Oh, Black will have a field day with this given my tendency to blah-blah-blah. Plus, I don't know how many times she's told me that whatever point I'm trying to make often gets lost in my "sea of words". Of course, when she's told me this in person, I get the added emphasis of seeing her roll her eyes. At least, it's not what I call "The Look", which is a step beyond the rolling of her eyes when you can only imagine what she's thinking, but you know it's not good. But, I digress, which, I guess, is part of my communication "challenge".
The fact Red's warm and fuzzy, and likes to couch her words (whether spoken or written) so as not to hurt anyone's feelings, and to provide full explanations to avoid misunderstanding, is a good thing, but is still only half the equation. Communication requires both the sending — and the receiving — of a message. But if the other party isn't listening, it falls on … well, deaf ears. Which often means you repeat yourself (oh, and we all know how our tone of voice changes when we're saying something for the millionth time), and although it may initially have been said with good intentions, ends up being seen as nagging.
Black, on the other hand, has never been accused of being quiet or shy, and given her extremely pragmatic business-like personality, has a much more direct communication style. Some of which Red recognizes can be useful,
I've often said that you write, talk, and probably even dream in bullet points. And while I might think of them as "abrupt" at times, there's no question that they provide a very clear and succinct way of communicating. Which is why I preface some of my longer emails that cover lots of topics and explanations, with, "I'm borrowing some of Black's beloved bullet points …"
So, what's the most effective method? Well, you can spend hours on the internet reading countless articles about the benefits of effective communications, the various types of communications (not everything is verbal and written — think about things like body language and facial expressions), and ways to improve communication skills, but Black tends to look at things slightly backward …
The reality is that we each have our own style of communicating, but we need to remember that communication is a two-way street, and the objective is connecting with other people, and sharing thoughts and ideas. Sometimes the best way to get our point across is to work backward and think how the other person will receive what we want to express. And then listening, truly listening, to their feedback.
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