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Thanksgiving’s my favorite holiday, although it’s hard because Natasha’s living in England. But I can’t wait for Sawyer to be home from college, and since she and her friends love our new (or at least new to us) pool table, I’m looking forward to them hanging out at our house.


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That means there will be more people to enjoy your decorations throughout the house. Do you still put the big inflatable turkey out front?


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Of course. He’s my favorite inflatable and has been on our front lawn since right after Halloween! If it was up to me, and the homeowners association wouldn’t send me a nasty note, I’d have him up year-round. And I don’t expect you to remember, but years ago, I pared down the number of decorations I put up inside the house. Just enough to make it festive, but not overwhelming in terms of set-up and take-down.


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And, if I remember correctly, you also pared down your traditional Thanksgiving dinner. Or, at least, the homemade desserts. Are you going back to being excessive now that Sawyer may have friends over?

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I always make too much food, and this year will be no different, even though in the past, it was also so I could give Mom lots of leftovers. This year will be our first Thanksgiving with her gone.

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I am sure it will hit you at strange moments throughout the day. Especially when it is time to deal with all the leftovers.

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Well, it’s not like you’ll take them. You barely like any of it to begin with.

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Look, I am not a fan of holidays and liked being able to use COVID as my excuse for staying home. And, even though I dislike turkey, I always enjoy the Honey Baked Ham and take a few slices home.

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Technically, since you buy the ham and I merely pick it up and serve it, you should take all the leftover ham home. But since Sawyer and I both love it, we’re glad you don’t.

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Using that logic, I should take home all the leftover pies I bring from Whole Foods. Even though I am not a fan of pies.

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Well, everyone else loves them, and it takes away the guilt of me not making everyone’s favorite desserts.

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I find it funny – you cook all day and even make multiple types of potatoes so everyone can have their favorite, yet feel guilty about store-bought pies that everyone loves. Years ago, I used to run away from home to avoid celebrating the holiday and never felt guilty.

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I forgot about that, as it was before I moved to Texas. I never knew whether you were trying to avoid celebrating Thanksgiving or your birthday since they fall so close together.

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Both. And, especially when my birthday fell on Thanksgiving.


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This year your birthday falls on Black Friday, which seems so appropriate. Although, like every year, we’ll struggle to find something to get you.


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I have given up trying to tell you that you do not have to do anything.


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Yes, but you hit 65 this year. It’s a biggie.


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Ok, then how about we celebrate by starting a new tradition, and deliver pies to your local nursing home or assisted living facility? It would be a great way to make me feel young. Or, at least, younger.


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That’s funny. I used to bake cookies and brownies for the girls to give as Christmas gifts, but I’ve never thought about delivering them to total strangers. Plus, since Mom’s birthday was at the end of November, if we did it around Thanksgiving, it would be a great way to honor her memory.


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Is that not the true spirit of Thanksgiving? People may debate its origins, but it is about giving thanks. The traditional feast “replicates” the Pilgrims celebrating their good fortune by sharing their food and crops with the Indians.


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Says the woman who doesn’t cook. And never has people over to her home.


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But, neither is required to appreciate what you have in your life and share it with others.


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Good point. I think we sometimes get so wrapped up in the shopping and cooking that we forget the true meaning of Thanksgiving.


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Which is why having meaningful traditions is important. They work as reminders.


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Then I’m not sure I should admit one of my favorite Thanksgiving traditions.


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Do I even want to know?

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Probably not. I wake up, turn on “The Godfather” movie marathon on TV, and start cooking. I love the break from my normal routine and having the freedom to cook all day, coupled with the feeling that it means fall’s here, even if the weather’s still warm.


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It sounds like you are appreciative of the day. So, that is a step in the right direction. Plus, the movies are about family. And, include family meals.


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Yes, but even you, who I know loves to connect dots that seem to be unrelated, can’t tie the Corleones or The Godfather movies to the Pilgrims!


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Really? But I believe, to paraphrase Don Vito Corleone, the Pilgrims made the Indians an offer they could not refuse.


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Clever! Especially as that may be the most memorable line from the first Godfather movie. So, I’ll make you an offer you can’t refuse … we’ll have Thanksgiving dinner late enough that you’ll have most of the day to work on Red & Black in uninterrupted peace and quiet.


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Deal. And, I give thanks that you remember that is my Thanksgiving tradition.

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