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Finding Balance … With A Traffic Light?


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I know everyone’s always trying to find balance in their life. I thought becoming an empty nester would make that easier, but apparently not. The girls may be grown, but being a mom doesn’t end when your children move out. Between them, Red & Black, and my seemingly endless lists of things to do, I still struggle.


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And, as I am a die-hard workaholic who admits to not having a life, you think I have the answer?


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Excellent point. Never mind.


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However, I do have some suggestions … although I will preface it with, "Do as I say, not as I do."


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At this point, I'll take whatever help I can get.


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Sometimes you need to make a conscious effort to stay present. And, by that I mean appreciate what is happening now instead of thinking about what is next. Or, reminiscing about the past.


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That sounds good, but it also sounds overly simplistic, not to mention highly optimistic. And where would I even start?


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Easy. It really is as simple as 1 – 2 – 3.


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Nothing's that simple.


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1. SLOW down and look around
2. STOP using your gizmo and consider putting it away
3. GO spend time with family or friends, or steal some "alone time"


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Actually, that does sound simple. Now I just have to remember to SLOW – STOP –GO.


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Just imagine a traffic light. Plus, it would have the added benefit of every time you see a real traffic light, it will remind you to SLOW –STOP – GO.


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I should've known there'd be a car or driving analogy in there somewhere.


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