Still image from video filmed at Stringfellow Unit in Rosharon, Texas.
“Rehabilitating people assumes they were habilitated in the first place.”
A friend who had done time at Louisiana’s Angola Prison (the "Alcatraz of the South") told us that, and it stopped us cold. Because the idea of giving someone a "second chance" after prison assumes they had a "first chance" to begin with.
But what if no one taught them how to manage money, resolve conflict, or think long-term? What if the education system failed to prepare them for life? Then, they never really had a chance at all, did they?
When it came to people in prison, Red had always thought “Lock ’em up and throw away the key.” It wasn't until we were introduced to the Texas Department of Criminal Justice’s Chaplaincy Department that we realized the situation is more nuanced than that.
Black, ever the pragmatic, wanted to learn more. But couldn’t help but think that we all make mistakes. And told Red,
Just because someone makes a bad decision does not make them a bad person.
However, the last thing we ever expected was for our book "What I Learned About Life When My Husband Got Fired!" to be used in Texas prisons, with the men and women asking why these “lessons” (fundamental life skills, including personal finance) weren’t taught in school. Red wonders that too, as she didn’t learn them until she was in her 40s.
Now, in honor of April being “Second Chance Month,” we want to ask you …
Don’t we all deserve a second chance … including the people in prison?
What does it take to build a legacy?
Not a building. An organization. And a leader with passion.
In 1991, Make-A-Wish of the Texas Gulf Coast (before it included Louisiana) was a young organization facing an uncertain future. Then Teri Andrepont became its CEO, and the chapter grew to be one of the most successful in the nation. Twenty-nine years and thousands of wishes later, she made the difficult decision to retire. How would we ever thank her?
The chapter had recently moved into a new building, and the Board unanimously decided to name it in Teri’s honor.
This video was created for the building dedication in 2022, and Black was one of the people asked to help tell Teri’s story. Why? Because Teri’s passion for Make-A-Wish was contagious — Black caught it early in Teri’s tenure and has served the organization for more than 30 years as a board member and advisor, a relationship that continues today.
| A legacy is not just what you build. It is what drives others to keep building. |
| I know everyone’s always trying to find balance in their life. I thought becoming an empty nester would make that easier, but apparently not. The girls may be grown, but being a mom doesn’t end when your children move out. Between them, Red & Black, and my seemingly endless lists of things to do, I still struggle. | |
| And, as I am a die-hard workaholic who admits to not having a life, you think I have the answer? | |
| Excellent point. Never mind. | |
| However, I do have some suggestions … although I will preface it with, "Do as I say, not as I do." |
| At this point, I'll take whatever help I can get. | |
| Sometimes you need to make a conscious effort to stay present. And, by that I mean appreciate what is happening now instead of thinking about what is next. Or, reminiscing about the past. | |
| That sounds good, but it also sounds overly simplistic, not to mention highly optimistic. And where would I even start? | |
| Easy. It really is as simple as 1 – 2 – 3. | |
| Nothing's that simple. | |
| 1. SLOW down and look around 2. STOP using your gizmo and consider putting it away 3. GO spend time with family or friends, or steal some "alone time" | |
| Actually, that does sound simple. Now I just have to remember to SLOW – STOP –GO. | |
| Just imagine a traffic light. Plus, it would have the added benefit of every time you see a real traffic light, it will remind you to SLOW –STOP – GO. | |
| I should've known there'd be a car or driving analogy in there somewhere. | |
| Throttle on ... |
Would you ask someone to risk their life so you can have a steak or hamburger?
This question was prompted by this Axios article.

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