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A Second Chance Assumes A First One

Still image from video filmed at Stringfellow Unit in Rosharon, Texas.

“Rehabilitating people assumes they were habilitated in the first place.”

A friend who had done time at Louisiana’s Angola Prison (the "Alcatraz of the South") told us that, and it stopped us cold. Because the idea of giving someone a "second chance" after prison assumes they had a "first chance" to begin with.

But what if no one taught them how to manage money, resolve conflict, or think long-term? What if the education system failed to prepare them for life? Then, they never really had a chance at all, did they?

When it came to people in prison, Red had always thought “Lock ’em up and throw away the key.” It wasn't until we were introduced to the Texas Department of Criminal Justice’s Chaplaincy Department that we realized the situation is more nuanced than that.

Black, ever the pragmatic, wanted to learn more. But couldn’t help but think that we all make mistakes. And told Red,

Just because someone makes a bad decision does not make them a bad person.

However, the last thing we ever expected was for our book "What I Learned About Life When My Husband Got Fired!" to be used in Texas prisons, with the men and women asking why these “lessons” (fundamental life skills, including personal finance) weren’t taught in school. Red wonders that too, as she didn’t learn them until she was in her 40s.

Now, in honor of April being “Second Chance Month,” we want to ask you …

Don’t we all deserve a second chance … including the people in prison?

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October is Bat Appreciation Month, and while most people associate bats with Halloween, they remind Red of something very different and far more important: her daughter, Natasha, a memorable trip to Austin, and a surprising decision by Black.

What started with thousands of bats flying out from under Austin's Congress Avenue Bridge eventually led to Natasha and Black getting their first — and matching tattoos. Of a bat. (Yes, Black has a tattoo!) It's a family story about memories, unexpected connections, and how something as unusual as bats can become surprisingly meaningful.


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Thanks for sending me Natasha's Austin-inspired business plan. But while I know that's her future, I can't help but think about the first time I took her to Austin.


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All I remember is that it was love at first sight.


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It was on our way home from taking Sawyer to camp, and I told her we were making a slight "detour". She was so excited when I pulled up to the hotel, as she's always loved hotels. But that night, as we walked onto Congress Avenue Bridge and saw thousands and thousands of bats fly out into the sunset, she was mesmerized and "in love".
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It's a running joke in my family that the only reason I go to the movies is for the popcorn. And while that isn't 100% true, it's probably close, as I can't remember a time when popcorn wasn't an essential part of the experience.

I can still remember seeing Mel Brooks' "Young Frankenstein" when it was first released (in 1974) at the Massapequa movie theater, which was literally at one end of an old strip shopping center. It bore no resemblance to today's multiplex cinemas, and the concession stand offerings were very limited. It was dark and a bit dingy, and the seats were old and uncomfortable. But I didn't care because the popcorn more than made up for it. And while I sat through multiple showings of the movie (it's still one of my favorites), I was grateful my dad had given me enough money to buy multiple popcorns, as in those days there was no such thing as the big bucket, let alone free refills.

Fast forward, and some things never change...

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