Passion Projects

A Second Chance Assumes A First One

Still image from video filmed at Stringfellow Unit in Rosharon, Texas.

“Rehabilitating people assumes they were habilitated in the first place.”

A friend who had done time at Louisiana’s Angola Prison (the "Alcatraz of the South") told us that, and it stopped us cold. Because the idea of giving someone a "second chance" after prison assumes they had a "first chance" to begin with.

But what if no one taught them how to manage money, resolve conflict, or think long-term? What if the education system failed to prepare them for life? Then, they never really had a chance at all, did they?

When it came to people in prison, Red had always thought “Lock ’em up and throw away the key.” It wasn't until we were introduced to the Texas Department of Criminal Justice’s Chaplaincy Department that we realized the situation is more nuanced than that.

Black, ever the pragmatic, wanted to learn more. But couldn’t help but think that we all make mistakes. And told Red,

Just because someone makes a bad decision does not make them a bad person.

However, the last thing we ever expected was for our book "What I Learned About Life When My Husband Got Fired!" to be used in Texas prisons, with the men and women asking why these “lessons” (fundamental life skills, including personal finance) weren’t taught in school. Red wonders that too, as she didn’t learn them until she was in her 40s.

Now, in honor of April being “Second Chance Month,” we want to ask you …

Don’t we all deserve a second chance … including the people in prison?

- YouTube

What does it take to build a legacy?

Not a building. An organization. And a leader with passion.

In 1991, Make-A-Wish of the Texas Gulf Coast (before it included Louisiana) was a young organization facing an uncertain future. Then Teri Andrepont became its CEO, and the chapter grew to be one of the most successful in the nation. Twenty-nine years and thousands of wishes later, she made the difficult decision to retire. How would we ever thank her?

The chapter had recently moved into a new building, and the Board unanimously decided to name it in Teri’s honor.

This video was created for the building dedication in 2022, and Black was one of the people asked to help tell Teri’s story. Why? Because Teri’s passion for Make-A-Wish was contagious — Black caught it early in Teri’s tenure and has served the organization for more than 30 years as a board member and advisor, a relationship that continues today.


Black's Head Black assets.rebelmouse.io

A legacy is not just what you build. It is what drives others to keep building.


Red's Head Red assets.rebelmouse.io


I know everyone’s always trying to find balance in their life. I thought becoming an empty nester would make that easier, but apparently not. The girls may be grown, but being a mom doesn’t end when your children move out. Between them, Red & Black, and my seemingly endless lists of things to do, I still struggle.


Black's Head Black assets.rebelmouse.io


And, as I am a die-hard workaholic who admits to not having a life, you think I have the answer?


Red's Head Red assets.rebelmouse.io


Excellent point. Never mind.


Black's Head Black assets.rebelmouse.io


However, I do have some suggestions … although I will preface it with, "Do as I say, not as I do."
Keep Reading ...Show less

Would you ask someone to risk their life so you can have a steak or hamburger?

This question was prompted by this Axios article.